So I'm fairly scrubby when it comes to this stuff, I wanted to make my own server for friends to hang in, I opened the server.exe and got things set up but I can't connect to it, nor can anyone else, Not sure what I'm missing but if someone could give me a more advanced explanation or a walkthrough that would be nice.
Sounds like you'll want to port forward. Give this a read: https://github.com/po-devs/pokemon-online/wiki/Running-a-PO-Server